She had been dating since high school. She had had many boyfriends and been in a few serious relationships. But none of it seemed to work out.
She watched as her friends’ relationships crumbled. She saw how they each sought for another relationship to fulfill their longing.
Watching this cycle go around and around made her take notice of how dating was done today. There was no purpose or goal in mind.
Today “dating around” has become the normal thing to do.
It seems that every girl has to have a boyfriend. She has to have that status of being in a relationship.
That leads women to settle for a no-purpose relationship.
Dating should be done with one goal in mind—seeing if he or she is the one you should marry. It should be done with intentionality and with God at the center.
I want to give you three ways to view dating differently. These are just a few things to take into consideration.
1. Is this a good time to begin a relationship?
Being in a relationship takes commitment. You will need to spend much time with that person to see if they are the one you should marry.
If you have responsibilities that would make it hard to invest time into the relationship (school, work, ect.), it may be better if you hold off from dating for a while.
I’m not saying that you can’t be in a relationship if you are in school or have a job. But if there is too much for you to concentrate on right now, then dating will only add more confusion. And that is not good for you or the other person.
2. Go in with intentionality.
If you are in a relationship that has no end goal in mind, then there is nothing to work towards. You will end up investing your time into someone that may not have the intention to move forward with you. This idea of just “dating for fun” will lead the two of you into trouble.
Bringing intentionality into the relationship will help you value purity, among other things.
Even if you just go on dates for fun, you are still giving part of yourself away, whether physically or mentally. There is not intentionality in that.
A friend explained it to me this way: If you bake a pan of brownies and give one brownie away to each guy you get into a relationship with, then at the end you will only be left with crumbs. Your future husband will not want just crumbs.
Dating with intentionality will help you guard your heart and your purity for your future husband.
3. Keep your faith through it all.
Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
Seeking God in your relationship will benefit both you and the one you are getting to know.
Keep Him at the center of the relationship. Stay strong in your faith. And help each other grow closer to the Lord.
Dating with purpose and intentionality should change the way you look at relationships.
There are so many different ways to do dating right. And it’s not a one-way-fits-all kind of deal. Find what works for you and your relationship. But just start with a purpose in mind.
In His amazing love,
Is dating with purpose completely forgotten in today’s culture? How can we bring it back? How can dating with intentionality help you grow in the Lord?