Is Pain Actually a Choice?

img_1993For half an hour I sat curled up on the couch, crying. And the tears continued to fall.

As the tears flowed down my cheeks, my mind started to wander to past hurts. To people who wounded me. To things I didn’t like about myself. To self-doubt about my current season.

Then a thought crossed my mind.

What if I was actually causing my pain? What if staying in the pain and misery was actually my choice?

In that moment I realized that pain can be a choice.

I chose to keep crying. I chose to bring up past hurts. I chose to stay in a state of regret and grief.

So instead of continuing my crying, I decided to turn my focus around.

I stopped thinking of everything and everyone who had hurt me in the past. I chose to rebuke the thoughts about my self and my situation. I turned to God to be my strength at that moment. The moment when I needed Him most.

Psalm 147:3 says that the Lord “heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

This is true for you too. Whatever you are facing, God can make it better.

The pain that others cause you does not have to change your testimony of our Heavenly Father. That pain can strengthen it through the way you decide to show others your response towards it.

The circumstance that you are in right now or have been in before may not have been your choice. The pain that others have caused you was probably not what you wished on yourself. None of it was your choice.

But you do have a choice in how you decide to let it affect you. You have a choice in whether or not you let it defeat you. You have a choice to let the lies and hurt take control of your life.

Give it to God.

Yes, the pain will still be there. Yes, you will still remember the hurt.

But deciding not to dwell on it and cause yourself more misery is the best thing for your mind, body, and soul. Let God take control and just give your pain to Him.

In His amazing love,

Stephanie Steele

What do you focus on when you try turn away from your pain? What Bible verses do you turn to to be your strength?

2 thoughts on “Is Pain Actually a Choice?

  1. I just wanted to add that no one knows your entire situation, but I don’t believe that in all situations of life it is YOU that keeps yourself in pain. I believe that no one should dwell on the pain that they are in, but instead they should give it to God and he will comfort them in their season of pain.

    Thanks and nice post!


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