The relationship between Johnathan and David is one of the best examples of friendship in God’s Word.
Johnathan’s father King Saul desired to kill David. But Johnathan loved David as his own soul (1 Samuel 18:3). He was a true friend to David, helped David escape his father’s wrath, and showed great love toward his friend.
Johnathan and David had a great friendship that lasted even after Johnathan’s death.
They had a great, godly friendship that we can learn from.
Friends can challenge us, influence us, and shape us into who we are. So choosing godly friendships is extremely important.
There are so many ways that we can build friendships that are pleasing to God. But here are three simple ways to begin:
First, friendships should be made from the inside out.
That means that the friendships that we make should not be about the outward appearance or how popular someone is. Relationships built on those foundations will not last.
The people you choose to be your friends should have a heart for the Lord, the same morals as you, and a common goal in life. If the two of you are striving for the same thing, the friendship will succeed.
Second, friendships should be built on sacrificial love.
Johnathan knew that God chose David to be the next king of Israel. That meant that he would never become king. But Johnathan didn’t care. He sacrificed becoming the greatest man in Israel for God’s plan. Johnathan loved David with a sacrificial love.
“Let each of you look not only to his own interest, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4).
Friendships are built on self-sacrifice. You must show care and consideration to each other to help the friendship grow into a lasting relationship.
Third, friendships will not always be perfect.
You are both humans. You are both sinners.
The two of you may have disagreements, but that should not hinder your relationship if it is built with God at the center. Just like in any relationship, if the foundation is not solid, it will crumble.
When things are difficult in your friendship, remember Philippians 2:3: “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.”
Cultivating godly friendships can be difficult, but it is worth it.
When you both are committed to God and willing to do His will, your friendship will more than likely succeed. It will be a great reflection of God.
In His amazing love,
Can you think of any other relationships in the Bible are great examples of godly friendships?